You sure came to the right place for advice. Some of us on the site are pretty shameless and have been most all our lives. My home environment was such that I had to share a small bathroom with my brother and parents until I was twelve, and I became used to using the toilet in front of family members. I also used open stalls with my classmates throughout school and into college. So I feel that I am qualified to help you take some steps here from a psychological point of view.

I couldn't tell from your question whether you were a man or a woman, but it really doesn't matter. My advice will be the same. Start with small steps, although I'm not sure you will need twelve.

The first step, however, should involve becoming comfortable with the idea of using a toilet away from home and in a public setting. Deliberately use a single-user facility first, rather than one with multiple stalls and simultaneous user possibilities. Just go into one of those unisex, single user bathrooms and use it.

Once you have actually pissed or taken a crap in one of those facilities and feel comfortable enough to do that, move on to a bathroom with multiple stalls and other user possibilities. If possible, try using one somewhere (say an office building late in the afternoon) when chances are that few others will be pooping or visiting it. Most people poop in the morning to right after lunch. While you are in there on the pot, deliberately clear your throat, rustle the toilet paper, and even hum a little tune so that you get used to the idea of not being afraid to make your presence known. You must learn not to be afraid to make noise while you are going to the bathroom. That is part of the comfort zone therapy.

When you are used to using a low-trafficked, multiple-user bathroom, then take a deep breath and use that same facility during prime time. Walk in one morning, head straight in to a stall and do your business without fanfare. If someone comes in, don't stop. Keep going. That's what the bathroom is for. No one is going to think less of you for being in there. If someone sits in a neighboring stall, don't panic. They are there for the same reason. Keep going. Don't be afraid to flush, cough, wipe or go about your business. Unless you are having some kind of terrible pooping emergency, people in the bathroom are not going to pay attention to you.

If you can't walk out at first until the bathroom is empty of others, don't press the issue. Take it slow. When you become comfortable enough to take a crap and emerge come hell or high water and someone is in the bathroom with you, smile and say hello to them.
They'll do the same.

If you keep at this, you should get bolder and bolder. You may never get to the point that you can cross-stall convo with people or even tell other people that you are going in for a grunt, and you may avoid open stalls like the plague and still insist on a high degree of privacy when you go in public, but don't worry about becoming the world's most shameless person. That is never going to be required of you.

Just concentrate on getting over what appears to be an abnormal fear of using public facilities and be satisfied with that. If you'd like, e-mail me anytime about your progress or for further advice. I see no reason for anyone to be as uncomfortable as you obviously are in managing such a critical part of your life, and I'll be glad to help further in any way I can.

Well, I don't have as much to say as the Wiper, I think he stole everyone's thunder here, but that won't stop me from putting in my two cents. I became shameless because I was forced to in the college dorm. But after college, I still couldn't shit in public places, and especially not at work. Work is probably the most traumatic place to shit. So start small - crap at a friend's house, or in a large public place such as a Wal-Mart where no one knows who you are and they're all retarded anyway. Don't attempt to shit at work until you have mastered the above. When you do shit at work, start small, like going to a little-used bathroom, then work your way up - take a dump in the bathroom closest to your boss's office and don't worry about whether he/she will be in there. That's as far as I've gotten. You can do it!

DSP2: After graduating Von Wiper's crash crap course, you are welcomed to visit my awesomely vast cavern of public shitters at Grand Central Station, NYC, to prove your shamelessness. If you pass muster in one of my doorless (due to a decrease in the maintenance budget) stalls, we have a post-graduate program that includes an open crow's nest type enclosure on the Staten Island Ferry wherein you can expose yourself over the water and dump a load in complete public view of the Statue of Liberty!

this subject is worn out.

The shitting itself has nothing to do with it, it's one's personality.

As a child I was pretty shameless. I would often sing songs about my poop to pass the time. As I hit womanhood I became a little less shameless. I would often carry a mini bottle of deodorizer (found in the automotive section) in my purse. I graduated to a small book of matches and now I don't need a thing. Like Assblaster recommended, try shitting at a friend's house first. Sing a song or read a book. Soon you'll be pooping everywhere. Not literally of course.

These are all good suggestions on how to step by step become shameless, but as doniker says, it's all in the personality.
To be completely shameless, you need to believe it.

For me, the best way to fight any shamefull moments, is to recognize that everyone poops, and that's what public bathrooms are for-pooping and peeing. You don't have to be scared to use what is provided for you, to do what your body needs to do. There's no reason to feel shame.

You can do it!

Doniker -- this subject is not worn out. This is the biggest challenge facing humanity right now. How many millions of people suffer the stress of Shameless Shitting? They take it out on their jobs, their family, their friends... this is why people beat me up in high school. Worn out, indeed.

well it's a little worn out here.

I don't beleive there is a way for a shameful person to become shameless in public. The shameful are, in most cases, shy people, people with low self esteem, or people raised in a strict household; the shameless are outgoing, confident and probably had cool parents.

It's all in ones personality.

i for one am going to take TBW and AB2000's advice and become the world's ultimate shameless shitter! thanks guys. i too am a somewhat shameful shitter, but now i know i can overcome it and poop just about where ever the need hits me!

I feel so lucky that I can poop most anywhere as long as it's clean. I cannot poop in a porta potty - no way no how, yet I see poop in there all the time. I've hear of sick fucks jumping in those things waiting for a pooper.

I'm with you, Mudd. I really don't like porta-potties at all. Not only do they stink, but they are very claustrophobic. Ditto on the clean facilities observation.

Doniker, your theory is full of crap. I still like you but I think your head is way up your ass on this one. Shameful shitting is a complex issue that can't simply be explained by a person's self esteem or upbringing. Dammit, that's just a way for shameless shitters to make themselves feel superior to us shameful folk. There's nothing wrong with my self esteem (buh-lieve you me) and my parents were way cool and laid back regarding poop and other issues, yet I remain a shameful shitter. I feel confident in all other areas but the whole dooky thing bungs me up. It's definitely about more than loving yourself.

Justa, every theory isn't 100% and I did say "most cases".

no offense taken.

Yeah, i wouldn't have a problem crapping in a public toilet but i'm so afraid that i would clog a toilet and then everyone would know i did it. I also can't see myself crapping at a friends house....most of the girls I know are very private about crapping and many of them don't do it at school just as i do unless it's an emergency......but i'm seriously afraid that i would clog a toilet because i have a problem with my intestines and they are streched to like 5 times their normal size...so yeah my crap is way not normal size......

Yeah, I'm with you there Mudd and TBW! I can shit about anywhere but a porta-potty or a campground outhouse. I'm always afraid some freaky poo-eating monster is going to jump out of the dark void and crawl up my ass.

The potty monster is well known to lurk in outhouses and portapotties at outdoor concerts. I think the potty monster bit my ass once but I can't be certain because I was pretty stoned so my sensory perception might have been screwed. Avoid shitting in deep dark holes at all costs, people.

I think Donikers got a point. Personality DOES play a large part in shameless shitting. To date I've had one shameless shit (which I posted about on the forums) and since then I've reverted to the stealth sneaky shits. I'm completely blaming my withdrawn personality on this. Bah!

However, I'll give BW steps a go before accepting defeat!

Let me know how it's going, HM. I really would like to help, if I can.

Poo eating monster - that's funny!

i have never once pooped in a port-a-potty or outhouse type toilet, nor would i. i think i would at least try to find a secluded spot where i could poop on the ground privately or something.

I can never call myself Shameless when it comes to pooping. I can use a Public toilet with utmost ease and not care who hears me but when i have a date over my house or when i'm at her house/apartment, that's when i become REALLY self conscious about #2, especially if she's in the room next to the bathroom...AWAKE & waiting for me.

The 2 things i worry about:

-the massive reverberation from the toilet when i have "airy" shits. Cup your hands 3/4ths over your mouth & nose then make some fart noises. Now imagine that noise, 10 times as loud, coming from the toilet as you're farting up a storm trying to squeeze one out. The bowl amplifies the sound to point like it sounds like you just farting into the microphone on karaoke night.

-The general stink. I don't care if it's my bathroom cause i installed a window fan that'll blow the stink into my neighbors' backyard. It's the worst when she has an apartment with a windowless bathroom. Usually the girl will have a scented candle in there but it don't really help. "Sandalwood" or "Mulberry Delight" could never tame the smell of shit.

I actually lost 2 dates cause the girls thought i was disgusting in the bathroom. Stuck up bitches.

I don't understand why people feel shame doing #2 at work. It's a necessity. You should feel no shame in that unless you just shit yourself OR there's a girl in the office who you like and some guy recognizes your shoes/pants, or just you in general, and tells everyone how you much shame you just made the toilet feel in the MENs room.

I envy those of you who've found a girl who excepts "Shameless Shitting" and aren't stuck up about bathroom issues.

Don't give up, Sir Wipes-A-Lot. If there's one thing I've learned since I started frequenting this site, it's that there are plenty ofshameless shitters of both genders out there, some of whom have found each other. From their comments in various threads and posts, I've been impressed with the way they've accepted and celebrated this integral aspect of life in each other with good humor and wisdom.

As for the idea of rejecting someone, male or female, because they stink, I'm a bit speechless. I wouldn't call that shameful or shameless, I'd just call it shallow. Hang in there, man! You'll find a liberated, shameless woman sooner or later.

sir wipes-a-lot, my husband's shit smells worse than just about any other shit i've ever smelled in my life and i still love him! i have been totally grossed out by the smell of the bathroom when he's done in there, but i guess i got over it because we have made three kids together! what can i say? everyone's shit stinks!

Sir wipes-a-lot, you've been looking in all the wrong places. Personally, anyone who leaves someone just because he/she stinks up the bathroom is either a moron or a stuck-up bastard who deserves to sip sewage sludge from a dirty glass.

Obviously, you can see it in my name, I'm shameful. Doinker I did not come from a strict household, or have low self esteem. Weird enough I used to joke about how big my shit was. I've discussed this matter with my friends (who are all girls along with myself) and they have the same problem. Only one has had a strict household, but she's had to share a small bathroom with 4 brothers. Talk about tramatizing. It, in a way, could be genetically set after puberty, or hell, be set in our minds by society that shitting is disgusting, bad, horrible. The Victorians prolly started the whole fear, and we've just barely begun to realize how wrong they were. But DSPP please find a way, if not ones listed above your own way, to shit in public places. I'm going through the same exact thing, and it's hard. At least I'm still young and can do something about it.

Like Nike used to say,

Just do it!

This works for curing shameful shitting, too.

I can now shit anywhere except in porta potties and outhouses. They stink to high heaven in the summer, and are so cold in the winter that I am afraid that my nuts would fall off.

I t wasn't too long ago that I could only shit at home. I was so shameless that I didn't even want my own family to hear me.

Baby steps is the key. I started using public restrooms (when nobody else was in there). About a year ago, the moment came when I started voiding when others were in the restroom too. I told myself things like: ..... " everybody else goes to the bathroom, it is no big secret that I pee and poop" and " I don't care when other people go to the bathroom, I'm sure they don't care when I go" or " if someone hears me, is are the stars going to fall out of the sky?".

This realization that nobody cares about what I am doing in the bathroom was a big help. The biggest part of becoming shameless for me was changing my mind set.
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A man who farts in church, sits in his own pew.

I am like Healthy 1 in that I don't like to poop someplace where I'm going to contract radioactive herpes or get bitten on the head-of-the-dick by a black widow spider. But that's not shamefulness. That's some other phobia, as yet unnamed. Well, it's probably got a name.

I am convinced that shameful shitting is a mental disorder. Perhaps treatable by therapy or drugs.

I got to thinking and couldn't stop. This is what I found about poop phobias:

Coprophibia-fear of poop
Defacaloesiophobia-fear of painful bowel movements.
Osmophobia-fear of stink
Klismaphobia-fear of enemas
Rectophobia-fear of rectum or rectal disease
Proctophobia-fear of rectums

That's about all I can find. Has Poopreport coined the phobia word for shameful shitting? I suggest we assign names to the following phobias:

1) Shameful shitting.
2) Fear of pooping on a dirty toilet.
3) Fear of pooping someplace where a spider will bite you.

i am a guy and i used to be the same to some degree. i always avoided pooping in high school and usually never had to. but if for some reason i did, and tried holding it in, i would think horrible thoughts of actually having to go to the bathroom and possibly seeing someone i know in the bathroom. and everyone in class would know i did it because of how long i took. this anxiety actually caused stomach cramps which only worsened my condition and i was living in my own personal hell for a few hours. in case of emergency i would ask for a pass to guidance so people wouldnt be suspicious of how much time i took. since college its gotten much better. people in college dorm so they are used to using public bathrooms so the social stigma isnt really there.

one helpful technique is to LISTEN TO MUSIC (iPod maybe) while pooping. usually the main thing that makes pooping akward is knowing someone is in the stall next to you hearing all your noises...so just put on your ipod and make all the noises you want because you wont hear them and it will take your mind off the whole process. honestly it works wonders

I went from never poop anywhere but home, to poop anywhere when the urge hits. It was the day at college when I had worried myself into a bout of cramping diarrhea. I had no choice; the next two hours was a 400 level electrical engineering exam that was worth 50% of my overall grade!! I could not hold it during the test or I would surely fail. I went to the men's room and pressed my ass against the cold black industrial grade toilet seat. The pleasure that followed is un-definable. I shat, and shat, and shat and did a bowl filler. I cleaned my ass as someone sat down in the next stall and let it rip. It was that very moment that I realized, nobody is going to condem me or look down on me for having a bowel movement. If anything, it should indicate that I am secure with myself and my digestive system is working like it should. From that point forward, I poop anywhere. I have dumped at my buddy's house.. (He has in turn been more relaxed around me. No more sneak crapping. I broke the ice so he can say "I gotta take a dump, I'll be right back"). I poop every day at work after my coffee. I pooped at Home Depot the other day and I didn't get glued to the seat :)

I also see others at work that are shameless. Then there are those that are shameful. Believe us (shameless), we notice those of you who never poop at work. We know you poop sometime!

So here is your first step to becoming shameless. Go to a public restroom where you don't know anybody. Before you know it, you will be pooping anywhere there is a pot.

I thought you would enjoy this cartoon.
look at the second image.
maybe it applies to this blog too.

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